Saturday, March 6, 2010

Book Review: "Nappy Hair"

Someday I'll write a review for an adult book again. I wonder what it says about me that I feel more comfortable writing a book review about children's books... :)

"Nappy Hair" by Carolivia Herron                                                                              Backstory: I'd heard of the book because I'd heard of the controversy surrounding it. I randomly saw it in our library and so I picked it up to bring it home.                                                                                                                                                                Why:  I checked it out because I wanted to read it and see what it was really about. Was it worth the fuss? Was it a good read? I'm pretty interested in caring for my daughter's hair and the inherent controversy/irony in me as a white woman with stick straight hair that I don't know how to style adopting a daughter from Africa with awesome hair that will be more complex than mine but that I want to learn how to style well and to honor the "roots" (pun intended) of the hair tradition.                                                                                                                                                                       Overview: This story is told by "Uncle Mordecai". It has the narrative of the story interspersed with call-outs from his family, the audience. It starts out as gentle teasing about Brenda, a little girl, and her "willful" hair, how hard it is to comb, the sound it makes when she tries to comb it. The family alternates between encouraging him, teasing, and supporting Brenda. Her works in her success in school, but then goes back to her hair. He talks about how she got her hair and declares that "Her hair was an act of God" and the angels went and talked to God and tried to get him to give her less nappy hair. Uncle Mordecai replied that "God wanted hisself some nappy hair upon the face of the earth" and goes to say how God created her hair so that "nothing they come up with going to straighten this chile's hair". It touches on Africa and slavery, a page each. It goes on to talk about her birth and how her family laughed about her hair, but God looked at her and said, "Well done" and talks more about he is happy with her having "the nappiest hair in the world".

Intended Audience: I've read this book to Peanut twice. He sat through it both times, but it is a long book. I'm also not sure how much he was following along. It's not a book that HE has asked for me to read again. Of course, at this point in his life this book didn't cover anything that was particular salient in his life. I think the topic was a little beyond him, but hey, he did sit and listen so maybe he's quietly contemplating it. :) 

My thoughts: I have to say, that it's not my favorite. I did like the message that God created nappy hair on purpose that he likes it and that it should be a point of pride no matter what other people thing about it. I liked the narrative/answer style of writing.I did NOT like all the teasing from her family (maybe I have my own therapy session coming about teasing families), but I thought a little more familial support would have been, even though everything seemed to be done in a loving way. I wasn't crazy about the illustrations. They just didn't do it for me. The exception to that is the page that talks about Africa. It's my favorite picture in the book, but I still think it could be better. Maybe I didn't like it because it looks "too cartoony"? Uncle Mordecai also speaks in what I grew up hearing of as "Black English", which is more accurately known as African American Vernacular English. It didn't exactly roll of my tongue and the only black people that I've ever heard speak like that were older African Americans. I've heard one of the gripes with the book is that that form of language isn't a good representation of black people today. Still, despite some things I didn't like about the book, despite the controversy, I think that the message is solid that God loves black hair.

Score: 3 out of 5 (I'd buy it at a used bookstore, but personally wouldn't buy it new, well, new on sale, I would)






Thursday, March 4, 2010

Thuper Thursday 3

I liked the categories that I did for the last Thuper Thursday so that's what we're going with again.


1. Thuper Blog of the Week: The Year of Veggies
We've recently become pseudo-vegetarians in Zehlahlum Family and this blog is full of great ideas and meal suggestions. Since I'm still not sure that we aren't going to starve I appreciate this.

2. Thuper Juice of the Week: V8 Fusion 
The link takes you to a coupon for $1.00 off. V-8 did this just for the readers of Zehlahlum as a gift to me for single-handedly keeping them in business. No. That's a lie. :) I'm assuming they do it because if you're like me you think "V-8...BLECH" and zoom your cart right past. You should slow down though. This is good stuff! 8 ounces of this stuff is a serving of fruit AND a serving of vegetables AND has 100 calories only. In my book that is a win-win-win situation.

3. Thuper Etsy Item of the Week: JunkPosse's Hands for Africa Necklace
This is what I want for my birthday with my daughter's name on the back...

4. Thuper Healthy Helper of the Week: "Eat This, Not That" Series
These are not new books, but I think they're "thuper". We have the "Supermarket Survival" edition and the "For Kids!" edition. If you've never heard of them they list common foods/meals and then they suggest simple swaps that are more healthy. I find this to be very helpful. I don't base my life around it and I think that a bit more information about WHY the choices are healthier would be a good idea, but it's a good quick reference. I like it for just simple swaps to keep reasonably healthy food around my family.

5. Thuper Throwback of the Week: Book 
This is a great book and you should be reading it to your kids. You can just read it and enjoy it with them. There are also a TON of "talking points" in this book if you feel the need to do some therapeutic parenting. :) 

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Update on Little Miss

"I've got sunshine on a cloudy day.
When it's cold outside I've got the month of May.
I guess you'd say
What can make me feel this way?

MY GIRL
TALKIN' 'BOUT MY GIRL"
 
(all due credit to The Temptations)

We got an update on Little Miss today.
Here are some highlights:

At 21 months:
She is learning potty-training and how to put on her own shirt.
Uses 2+ words to make her needs known.
Runs and walks well.
Can name more than 2 familiar objects when she sees them in a book.
Attempts to use a spoon and drinks from a cup with two hands.
Walks up the steps with assistance and scoots back down backwards. 


"She likes to be in the presence of the caretakers, loves to be with others. If she is happy she has such a laughter. Very playful and pretty little angel. Active too! If she gets offended she quiets down and withdraws. Likes both milk and meals. Sleeps well if not disturbed."
 
Just as indication of the kind of care that's she getting through Holt she has gone from under the 5% on growth charts last spring when she came into care. By the fall she was growing but still under the 25% and now as of February her weight is in the 50-75% and her height is in the 25-50%.
Grow, baby, grow!!
 
"I've got so much honey the bees envy me.
I've got a song sweeter than the birds in the trees.
I guess you'd say
What can make me feel this way?
My girl
Talkin' 'bout my girl."

We also got this tidbit from a traveling family:

 I wanted to let you know that I gave your little girl a big hug and kiss and let her know her mommy loves her.  We did not get to be around the children that were not our own very much. I went over and picked up your little girl.  She gave me the most precious smile and laid her head on my shoulder.  So I just stood and held her for about 10 minutes and rubbed her back and told her how much her mommy loved her and would be coming for her soon.  She's very beautiful. 
 
"I don't need no money, fortune, or fame.
I've got all the riches babies one man can claim.
I guess you'd say
What can make me feel this way?
My girl.
Talkin' 'bout my girl."

Monday, March 1, 2010

Giveaway

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Resolution Round 3

I don't feel like I did as much reading this month (February). I did finish all of my reading and then some, but it just didn't feel like as much. I'm not sure what I was doing instead, but I felt out of time.

Undone by Karin Slaughter: This book was great! I've actually had it since July and I've been saving it because I knew it was going to be good. I was also mad at Ms. Slaughter for what she did in the book preceding this, but she made it work. The first book in the series is "Blindsighted" and they really ought to be read in order. These are fast-paced, intense, gritty mysteries that I wholeheartedly recommend.

Beyond TimeOut by Beth Grosshans: I was really excited about this book. I thought that, as the title seems to say, this book would be about ways to move our discipline repertoire BEYOND time-out. We don't do time-out in the traditional punishment sense so I was expecting good things. In reality, this book was AWFUL. The book was all about how to use time out basically as the be-all and end-all in parenting. If parenting through isolation is what you're looking for then I guess you'd like the book. What struck me as the worst part of the book is that the author recommended that if your child was out of control that you could hold them in a restraint style. She then devoted a paragraph or two on how to do this. I think that is DANGEROUS! I've been trained in how to hold a child in a restraint without hurting them and it's not something that you can/should learn from a few quick sentences in a book. I also will go so far as to say that physically restraining your child should NOT be part of your typical parental arsenal. Aside from her advice to hold/restrain your child I didn't find anything in her way to use time-out that was different from any other book recommending the practice. I do NOT recommend this book at all.

Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese: This is a work of fiction set primarily in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia following the lives of people who become a family and how their lives are affected by choices, their personal history, and the political environment of the time. I enjoyed reading it, I loved reading about Ethiopia and getting a glimpse of some of the history. Some parts of the book were very moving and emotionally charged and I felt compelled to keep reading. Other parts of the book were a little heavier and the reading was slower and more of a chore. It was worth the time it took to read it and I enjoyed the story. I thought the dynamics of family relationships were captured well and that is hard to do.

Also read this month:

The Connected Child by Karen Purvis (TWO THUMBS WAY UP!!)
Fat Families Thin Families by Amy Hendel (one thumb up, one thumb down)
Thank God I'm Natural by Chris-Tia Donaldson (two thumbs up)
Parenting Preschoolers with a Purpose by the Search Institute (two thumbs up)
Your Spirited Child: Kurcinka (two thumbs up)...I actually read this in January, but forgot it. :) 

Reading Round 3 Books


Easy Reading:         Kindred in Death: JD Robb (NEW!!)


Resource Reading:   Parenting the Hurt Child: Keck & Kupecky


Actual Reading:       Gulliver's Travels: J. Swift (read bits before)


*Special Reading for Lent*     It's Not About Me: Max Lucado

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