Friday, July 22, 2011

Goal 4: Booking It

Anyone who knows me knows that I like:

to talk, to read, and, to write.
 
I have words burning in my bones. I always have. I don't know why. It' s just the way that God made me. I'm trying to get better about using those words in a productive way. I love to write. Far too often, as in almost every time I wander toward my computer to write, I let my internal editor and self-doubt get in the way. Do you know what that leads to? Not writing. 
 
Instead of letting myself disengage to enjoy the process, savor the rush of words, disappear into the possibilities I let my brain nitpick, question, criticize, and pressure. I don't have a lot of left-brain, but the part that I do have is a bully! Turning off that editor is a lot of work all by itself, but it's totally necessary. There is a "movement" called National Novel Writing Month where you write a 50,000 word novel in a month. The beauty of this system is in the mess that it makes. You can't self-edit and write a novel in a month and so you give yourself the freedom to just let it all hang out and throw random scenes around when you need to. It's classic quantity over quality and it works. Their catch phrase is "30 Days and Nights of Literary Abandon" and frankly, even saying that makes me feel tingly all over. 

I have used NaNoWriMo (that's the fabulous abbreviation) to write 3 of my 4 novels. I used the book for one, and then the actual month for two others. The first novel I wrote slowly over a few years in high school. I was hoping to write my next novel in November of this past year and totally failed at that, then I was hoping that I'd just borrow their method and bang one out this month and totally failed at that. So I now haven't written a book since 2005 before Peanut was born, which sucks and I find miserable and depressing. 

But, wait! All is not lost!

On July 10 I took this idea that I had and was planning on doing for Boohoo and I twisted the idea and then sat down and I wrote 3/4 of a children's book. Since then I sat down twice more and finished writing it. It turns out to be waaaaay quicker than writing a novel.
I'm actually planning on looking into getting it published or potentially self-published. I have zero idea what the children's book market is like because I've never really planned on writing a children's book and especially not one for the preschool demographic, but that's exactly what I've done now. 

The story is told from the first person perspective of a preschool aged little girl who was adopted from Ethiopia along with her younger brother. The story starts in Ethiopia and talks about their family and their adoption and then moves into their new family and adjustment to life in the United States. It uses positive adoption language and talks honestly, but age appropriately about adoption. 
 
The idea for this story came about as I started telling Boohoo her own story and trying to weave together her beginnings in Ethiopia, time spent in an orphanage, how she arrived here with us, and talking about the things that she was feeling and doing as she adjusted/is adjusting. It's complicated to tie that all together in a way that acknowledges her feelings, the truth, and still shines through with the positive aspects of adoption. I wished that there was a story that I could use as a low-key way to talk about these things as well as give her a character/story from a book that she could relate to thoroughly. 

I'm actually rather happy with it. :) I'm going to go back through and do an edit myself and then a few of you can expect to be tapped as editors and second-opinion-givers.

So, there you have it! Goal number 4

Check!

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Proud

Thirty Things that Make Me Proud of Myself

  1. I married a great man. I'm giving myself credit for his greatness since I snagged him. 
  2. Peanut
  3. Pickle
  4. Boohoo
  5. I have a college degree
  6. I've written four novels
  7. I've been to Africa
  8. I've been to South America
  9. I make homemade rolls just like my mom
  10. I make homemade potato soup just like my Gram
  11. I make homemade potato salad that is my own delicious recipe
  12. I love to go "home" and visit my family
  13. I'm a military wife and I've become adept at making "home" wherever we are...within two weeks
  14. I've been married for going on ten years now and overall I'd say we're rocking it
  15. I've given birth twice...natural and drug free...on purpose and I wouldn't do it any other way
  16. I am friends with each of my sisters
  17. I respect and like my in-laws
  18. I like cable, but can go without it and it's not a sacrifice
  19. I love to read and my children do as well
  20. I got myself out of an abusive relationship
  21. I know what I think about the big issues in life
  22. I am a compassionate person and I believe in social justice
  23. I have way more self-acceptance/confidence/awareness/respect than at any other point in my life
  24. I have had interesting and fulfilling jobs during my short time as a working-woman
  25. I have a handful of people around the country who know they could call me in an emergency and they know (as soon as I could arrange childcare) I would hop on a plane and be there for them
  26. I've expanded the types of books that I read and I'm learning things!
  27. I am proud to be a stay at home mom
  28. I am teaching myself and my kids healthy habits
  29. I am still going strong after the most difficult year of my life
  30. I am full of hope for this new year and decade of my life

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Goal 1: Baby Talk

One Zehlahlum

Two Zehlahlums

Three Zehlahlums

Four.

Now there are FIVE Zehlahlums


Will there ever be more?
This is the first of my "Talking About Turning 30" posts and I'm starting with a bang because this is a serious one, super close to my heart, and honestly, probably the most challenging item on my goal list.

The truth is that we would like another child. I've always said that I could see myself as a mother of only boys, but that I couldn't imagine raising a daughter without a sister. 


When it's not making me absolutely insane I really enjoy having my kids close in age...three within twenty five months, might be a little much, but we're working on making it work.

We're holding at three kids right now.
We're holding onto our daughter's heart because she's not ready, our boys aren't ready yet, and while our hearts are there, we know that practically-day-to-day-to-day we're not ready either.

Yet.

We're putting what we want aside for what we have.
We're not saying 'no' forever.
We're saying 'no' to right now.
We're not saying "finished".
We're saying "hiatus".

We hope that our family is not done.
But we're not sure.
We have to take care of the children we've been given
before we add another.
We know the answer could be that we are done
and we know that will hurt,
we know that waiting when we want to move forward hurts.


What we are learning is that 
God still heals hurt hearts,
He still walks the painful paths with us,
He is our hope in dark hours,
and He is not finished with our family.


So, did I accomplish my first goal of determining the completeness of my family?

I'm saying yes (My interpretation of success on these is going to be liberal) based on the 'even though the plan is for later' portion of the statement.



Monday, July 18, 2011

I can run, but I can't hide!




Run away!!

My birthday is coming!

Oh, right. 

There's no getting away from that. 

After running away my next instinct is this


but with my three stooges running around my house
I find that burying my head in the sand is dangerous for everyone. 

And so, I will do something that I'm good at:



I plan on posting about this 
and loosely related personal drama and nonsense
several times a week.

But don't worry.
In two weeks it will all be over. 

I will be middle-aged. 
I'm sure my memory will be so bad by then that I won't even remember that it happened. 
My physical body will be so slumped and slovenly that I won't even be able to hoist the laptop upon my lap to blog.
My health will have deteriorated.
My hair will start to turn gray. 
Gravity will pick up where the effects of breastfeeding left off. 
I'll have traded my lust for



for these



It will be the beginning of the end. 

Yes, in just under two weeks

I

will

be

30.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Scripture on Sunday

In my reading the other night I read this passage 
(along with a LOT else in my zeal to actually finish before my birthday)
and it really stood out to me.

The plain text portion is how it actually appears in the Bible,
the bold section is how it appeared in my brain.

Haggai, chapter 2
3 ‘Who of you is left who saw this house in its former glory? How does it look to you now? Does it not seem to you like nothing? 4 But now be strong, Zerubbabel,’ declares the LORD. ‘Be strong, Joshua son of Jozadak, the high priest. Be strong, all you people of the land,’ declares the LORD, ‘and work. For I am with you,’ declares the LORD Almighty. 5 ‘This is what I covenanted with you when you came out of Egypt. And my Spirit remains among you. Do not fear.’
 6 “This is what the LORD Almighty says: ‘In a little while I will once more shake the heavens and the earth, the sea and the dry land. 7 I will shake all nations, and what is desired by all nations will come, and I will fill this house with glory,’ says the LORD Almighty. 8 ‘The silver is mine and the gold is mine,’ declares the LORD Almighty. 9 ‘The glory of this present house will be greater than the glory of the former house,’ says the LORD Almighty. ‘And in this place I will grant peace,’ declares the LORD Almighty.”

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